Things I've Written

What if, in order to start feeling better, you had to feel worse for a while? What if finally letting go of the need to control everything meant feeling out of control for a bit first? What if finding some peace meant learning how to tolerate uncertainty? This is something I talk about often in DBT: the idea that sometimes, maybe even most times, we have to tolerate feeling worse before we begin to feel better. It's one of the hardest parts of therapy. People are already hurt

We don’t talk enough about the quiet victories in recovery. Victories that don’t look or even feel like winning in the moment — but keep...

Bridging the Gap Between Knowing and Believing Have you ever sat in therapy and said something like… “I know it’s irrational, but I still...